I’m Kimberly, a 42 year old wife, mama of three, and an outspoken advocate for change.
I’m also a domestic violence survivor, and I’ve dealt with depression, attention deficit, and paralysis of the left side of my face from bell’s palsy. The most difficult, though, was losing my mom and dad nine days apart, unexpectedly.
After my parents died, I focused on creating an invaluable resource for my family, that I could leave behind in the event of my death. Although I had no intention of dying, I also knew I wasn’t guaranteed a certain amount of time. I knew my husband would do a great job taking care of our children if I wasn’t here, but – knock on wood – in a worst case scenario, if something happened to us both, I needed to know my children would have every available opportunity to live their lives the way we had hoped and dreamed.
I compiled the resource, and I slept a lot better.
But, I didn’t change much else. Although I could rationally admit I didn’t want to leave a literal mess for my family to clean if I were to die, my house often looked like a tornado had swept through. I wasn’t taking care of myself, and was content eating drive thru garbage while closet eating donuts. I began to lose sense of who I was, and struggled with my purpose.
Over time, my strong-willed, sassy attitude returned, and my optimism for life and belief in the inherent good propelled me back on track. I focused on volunteerism and service projects, and began to create a sustainable business plan that would allow me to remain family focused while inspiring other people with my experiences.
And then I heard the words, “You need a biopsy.” A sudden, terrifying cancer scare realigned my entire perspective on life. I’d never been a ‘wait until I’m ready’ kind of person, but as a family, we were constantly putting things off. It almost always came down to time or money. With five of us, everything was expensive, and we were trying – diligently – to get out of debt, so we could enjoy more things later. But, when faced with a possible cancer diagnosis, time isn’t necessarily on your side. While we waited on additional doctor’s appointments, and definitive information, our lives forever changed.
Although the end result was great – no cancer – my family and I are now focusing on making things happen. We’re consistently de-cluttering our home. Room by room, we are donating, tossing and re-organizing, so we can enjoy what we love most without all of the distraction of ‘stuff.’ We’re not saying “maybe, if we can afford it” anymore. Instead, we’re adding it to our dream board, and we’re figuring out ways to make it happen. And, I’ve committed to being healthier, not only for myself, but for my family. By bringing home more nutritious foods, and being proactive with more activity, it’s resulted in more dinners together around the table, and more walks around the block. We’re together. We’re making memories.
It’s your turn! I hope you never experience the type of adversity I’ve had in my life, but I do hope you’ll allow me to use my experiences to help you create the life you’ve always wanted!
In addition to my written contributions to Optimism with a Side of Onions, I am also a philanthropist, artisan, and motivational speaker. I am available for keynote presentations, lunch-and-learn sessions, and retreats. Please visit http://kimberlymccormick.com/book-kimberly/ to inquire about availability.